Is This Bad Parenting?

[OnlQQker]

So my son purchased a house. I look around it with him some months ago and noted the electrics needed sorting.
Old consumer unit (wired fuse type) no RCD protection and cables coming into from rooms in the house that look like lead?

House is 1910's



Anyway he does not want to get an electrician in, he's decided it's to expensive and he would rather save his money to buy these stupid computer games, and all this other crud they seem hell bent wasting their money on.

So, he has asked me to tell him how to do it and he'll do the rest. I mean like draw it all out and give him an instruction manual to follow, similar to what you get with an Ikea cabinet when you're putting it together.
So I told him I am not qualified and can't sign it off. But that does not seem to bother him.

SO

I own a KT63 tester, I've never used it on the 1000v ir setting yet.
I'm thinking of asking him to hold both ends as part of his electrical course and then belt out 1000v
Now I know this sort of thing goes on in college because I have spoke to many electrician who has done this, as well as having it done to them.

I know they all lived to tell the tale, where they might not of if that had been a belt from household electrics.
This would certainly give him the first lesson of 'don't mess around with something you don't understand'

But I guess I'm asking parents in the Electrical world if this is the right approach? Otherwise I'm stumped and he moves in tomorrow?

How do you explain to people just how deadly electrics can be without showing them?

It's a pain you can't describe and one that flows though your body like a million red hot knives!

 

[UNG]

I think parents will always try to do their best for their kids while at times it may not be immediately apparent that it is appreciated you always like to think and hope that it is

 

[nicebutdim]

I think parents will always try to do their best for their kids while at times it may not be immediately apparent that it is appreciated you always like to think and hope that it is

This about sums it up.

I don't think there are any right answers on the subject of parenting, but many is us have a knack for finding wrong answers.

 

[Intoelectrics]

Not my parent, but a life lesson that serves me well.
As an apprentice my first boss was my father's best mate, he was a little guy who wore glasses he smoked a pipe constantly and was often referred to as "popeye"
As a young man I resented him, I was bitter towards him and believed he was nasty and unfair. He would often (what at the time felt cruel to me) work me hard, give me all the s**t jobs no one else would do. He showed me no slack and would come down on me for poor time keeping (even a minute late), extended breaks, chatting at work... I was constantly bitter with him, he would often comment "do you hate my guts?" I'd always reply "yes" and he would walk off smiling. A few years later when I'd matured and gained some experience, I noticed that his attitude started to change towards me. A few years later on completion of my apprenticeship he came and had a chat with me.
He sat me down and said, "you know one day this business will be yours if you want it" I was shocked and taken aback. Unfortunately he died before this ever came to be and his wife sold the business on to his rival.

Looking back as I'm nearing a similar age to when he passed, I often consider his approach. It was cruel to be kind, he was preparing me for life, he was actually nurturing me to be his successor in a way that would be frowned upon these days. I have the upmost respect for him and actually missed him really bad when he passed away.

Sometimes tough love is the best kind of love.